Etiquette Corner: It's The Thought That Counts

By: Erin Newkirk

Dear Erin, 

A good friend of mine from my low-residency college sent me an amazing gift (across the country, no less) of a signed book by Neil Gaiman as well as a bottle of St. Germain and a candle for Luck. There was no real reason for the gift, other than me mentioning that I loved Neil Gaiman and her getting a ticket to a signing. How on earth do I thank her? I want to send her a thank you note and a gift of some kind, but how do I match her thoughtfulness? 

Thank you, 

Alexis Virginia


Hi Alexis Virginia,

Thank you for your question! I just answered a thank you question on the blog in my last post, so I am going to refer you back to that as much of that would apply to you.

That being said, while the circumstances might be different, in all things gift-ish, it's the thought that counts. So, thank you's can be as frugal or extravagant as you wish as long as they come from the heart. And never underestimate the power of a heartfelt, descriptive thank you. How you felt when you opened the gift, why it made your day/month/week, what you are going to do with it. Taking a picture of your happy face, where you are going to set the candle, what luck it has brought to you already. If you want to send her a gift back, what has she mentioned that she loves lately? What is she tweeting/pinning/posting about? The key to making people feel special is to make them feel like you listen, know them, think what they love is grand. 

It's that simple.

Hope this helps!

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